Episode 143
143: Monumental Lessons From Bali
Sometimes you have to let go to find your path. Releasing control and allowing life to unfold is so hard for most of us to do. But with acceptance and openness, the way forward becomes crystal clear.
After a soul-enhancing breathwork retreat in Bali, Melissa is back with a wealth of wisdom and a fresh vision. In today’s episode, she’ll talk about traversing the unknown, conscious surrendering, creating space, and embracing gratefulness.
Melissa’s contagious energy and enthusiasm for continuous growth are an inspiration and will have you hooked!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Bali
- Self-improvement
- Confidence
- Breathwork
- Conscious surrendering
- Personal development
- Clarity
- Gratitude
- Energy
- Creating space
- Spirituality
- Higher source
- Mental health
- Growth mindset
- Fear of unknown
- Trust
- Spiritual growth
- Personal growth
- Energy healing
Grab your ticket to Burnout to All Out LIVE in Nashville – October 6-7, 2023: https://burnouttoallout.co/BOTAO-Live-Pod
Resources mentioned:
Get on the waitlist for the Modern Entrepreneur Method: https://burnouttoallout.co/the-modern-entrepreneur-waitlist/
Connect with Melissa:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-henault/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissa_henault/
For free resources and information on Melissa’s current offerings: www.burnouttoallout.co
Free LinkedIn Productivity Checklist: http://www.burnouttoallout.co/linkedin-checklist
Get text updates by texting ALL OUT to +1 704-318-2285
What listeners have to say:
“Her energy is always refreshing. I love being able to apply her strategies to whatever my project is at the moment.”
If you’re vibing with the Burnout to All Out Podcast, we’d love to hear from you! Your feedback helps us support you in establishing a profitable personal brand on LinkedIn while you build the business and life you dreamed of.
Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Be sure to let us know what part of this episode resonated with you the most! And if you haven’t done so already, give the podcast a follow so you'll be notified when a new episode comes out.
Transcript
So this is the hey. Hey, you guys. I am back
Speaker:with a fresh episode on insights
Speaker:from my trip from Bali. I hope you
Speaker:guys enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed putting it
Speaker:together.
Speaker:Okay? Now
Speaker:I'm going to go live in just
Speaker:a minute.
Speaker:Okay?
Speaker:If I can go live. We're about to find out.
Speaker:Greetings, I am back from Bali.
Speaker:For those of you who are watching me live, my T shirt could not be
Speaker:more timely with the word grateful written across
Speaker:it. So excited to be back from my ten day
Speaker:retreat from Bali, and I'm bringing to you guys a
Speaker:special episode on insights from my trip
Speaker:as I speak to you, a little nasally. I travel for ten days. I go
Speaker:across the globe and catch nothing. I come home to kids with a cold
Speaker:and now I've got one. So there you go. So
Speaker:pardon the nasallyness, if that's a word.
Speaker:So why, first of all, did I even go to
Speaker:Bali? And we're going to get into this today, but it was really about
Speaker:consciously surrendering and letting go of the reins. And I'll speak
Speaker:more to that in a minute. But what you're going to hear
Speaker:about in this episode today, the key takeaways that
Speaker:I'm going to talk about with my trip to Bali were,
Speaker:one, the concept of conscious surrendering. So we're going to talk about
Speaker:that why I went on this journey. Number two, we're going to talk
Speaker:about lessons in traversing the unknown.
Speaker:We're also going to talk about the gratitude
Speaker:of the country and what I brought home from
Speaker:experiencing a level I'd never experienced before when it comes
Speaker:to gratitude, we're going to talk about
Speaker:experiences over things, going to talk about
Speaker:that. And then also the power of the
Speaker:energy and the energetic vortex and just the key term
Speaker:energy as it relates to Bali. So that's what
Speaker:I'm going to talk about today. So let's just jump right
Speaker:in to the conscious surrendering piece because I got a lot
Speaker:of questions from a lot of people who are like, oh my God, what are
Speaker:you doing going all the way across the globe to Bali? I've got
Speaker:these three little kids and these businesses and well, my first response is,
Speaker:why the hell not? I actually
Speaker:love the life I've created and the schedule I've created because
Speaker:I don't have to wait till I retire to hop a plane and spend
Speaker:ten days somewhere experiencing a different culture in a different world.
Speaker:Not necessarily a different world, but it felt like a different world. And so why
Speaker:the hell not, right? But secondly, there actually was intention
Speaker:around it. And counterintuitive as it sounds, the
Speaker:intention was to surrender being in control. The intention
Speaker:was to stop holding the reins, being in charge
Speaker:right after an epic run, literally a week after
Speaker:closing down our launch, where we did nearly a million dollars in sales in
Speaker:less than two weeks. Becoming a best selling author for the second
Speaker:time. All of this happening in the same month, right? It was time
Speaker:to slow down and ask the universe,
Speaker:what does it want from me?
Speaker:I've been so blessed. I have incredible clients
Speaker:who've said, yes, what does the
Speaker:universe want more of? It was time to pause and
Speaker:listen about what's to come for
Speaker:2024, right? What's the next level?
Speaker:What's ascension for me? What does growth look like? And unless you're still
Speaker:and create space to receive, how
Speaker:will you ever get clarity, right? So it was time for
Speaker:me to go there and really, I'll tell you and we'll talk a little bit
Speaker:about this later, but I was able to get massive downloads
Speaker:on my direction for the next year, right? We'll talk about
Speaker:it in a little bit. But I would have never had the space had I
Speaker:not taken this trip to consciously surrender and be that
Speaker:creative and tap into my subconscious and create the
Speaker:space I was consciously allowing to
Speaker:receive. I want to use. This word
Speaker:calculated receptivity literally paving a
Speaker:path creating space blocking out all the
Speaker:noise so that I could receive and be a student
Speaker:be an open vessel. Because I spend the large majority of my
Speaker:days every day being the teacher, being the
Speaker:boss, being the mom, being the leader, being the decision maker.
Speaker:Right? Being the visionary. And so it was a time to
Speaker:receive the gift and the bounty I had received from
Speaker:working hard and receive the feminine
Speaker:principle of receptivity, right? So it
Speaker:was a beautiful place to receive, a spiritual place to receive.
Speaker:I will also say I've been on my own spiritual journey the past two years
Speaker:and I have just been on this incredible high of connection to
Speaker:God, to my source, and was really, really
Speaker:enjoying that path and creating even more space and stillness
Speaker:to listen and communicate to my higher
Speaker:source and what the universe wants more of
Speaker:from me so that I can make a larger impact in this world. So hopefully
Speaker:that makes sense. That was my
Speaker:prime reason for going number one and number two,
Speaker:because I can. Okay, so
Speaker:what did I learn while I was there? What I
Speaker:learned is, again, I just want to recap on this, that
Speaker:we have to slow down, right, in order to
Speaker:receive and actually slow down and give thanks.
Speaker:I'm going to talk a little bit about this in a minute. Just the gratitude
Speaker:piece, but giving thanks, it's very easy. I
Speaker:caught myself and my whole team. Like, we're done with launch. So we did almost
Speaker:a million in sales in less than, like, 14 days. We became a best
Speaker:selling author, like, 22 of our clients did. We jump on a call
Speaker:and literally, we're talking about what's next. Like, literally, we're talking
Speaker:about the next launch. We're talking about the next goals. And it's like, whoa, whoa,
Speaker:whoa, whoa. Let's pump the brakes. Let's
Speaker:receive the bounty that has come our way
Speaker:and let's consciously pause right
Speaker:in this space. And not just
Speaker:pause, but give thanks. Give
Speaker:gratitude, right? The shirt, the gratitude, the
Speaker:magnanimity. I can't tell you how many times
Speaker:during that ride of success, right
Speaker:before I went to Bali that I was literally on my knees bawling
Speaker:with gratitude for what was manifesting in my life,
Speaker:right? And so this leads me to what was going on in Bali when I
Speaker:landed. See, they were in the midst of a
Speaker:twelve day celebration and I didn't know this.
Speaker:I landed on their twelveTH day of celebration that
Speaker:was focused around gratitude. And this key
Speaker:day that I landed on was called Canning Day.
Speaker:And it was so timely that I showed up on this day because so many
Speaker:locals were in the streets celebrating with
Speaker:gratitude. The children had the gongs and the
Speaker:bells and they were dancing and they were singing and they had these huge
Speaker:animal like figures that they were all standing under and moving
Speaker:in the streets. And they have this key term that's
Speaker:called sucks. Sucks Manning.
Speaker:Indeed. Sucks manning in deep. And the term is all
Speaker:thanks are given for the blessings during human
Speaker:life, for whatever has been achieved and
Speaker:found is important to be grateful.
Speaker:It gives me chills. I did not know when I landed in
Speaker:Bali on this day that this is what was going on. Yet I was
Speaker:on such a personal and spiritual
Speaker:and business high from my own life
Speaker:and landing in Bali in an immense space of
Speaker:gratitude to literally pause and give
Speaker:freaking thanks. Right? It was oozing out of
Speaker:the know. It's called the island of God. There's
Speaker:more temples per square mile than anywhere on the planet.
Speaker:They ooze gratitude. They have every house has a temple. They give
Speaker:gratitude and an offering to every morning when they get in their car,
Speaker:there's an offering to give thanks. Where they go for work has an
Speaker:offering on the front and an altar to give thanks.
Speaker:Right? I attended a new moon ceremony that
Speaker:lasted for 3 hours
Speaker:oozing with gratitude to Mother Earth, to the
Speaker:sky, to all that we have received. Literally just
Speaker:an energetic focus on thank you, thank you,
Speaker:thank you. And what I want to underscore here that was
Speaker:just eye opening for me is
Speaker:that the average income in that country is $250
Speaker:a month.
Speaker:$250 a month. See, the large
Speaker:majority of people who live on that island have never left it because
Speaker:they can't afford to get off the island. But one
Speaker:of the things I noticed is that there was no homelessness in the
Speaker:streets here at home. There's a lot of mental illness that contributes to a lot
Speaker:of homelessness, right? Even though we're the most abundant
Speaker:gluttonous country in the world, there's this disproportionate
Speaker:amount of mental illness and homelessness,
Speaker:even though in this country the average person makes $250
Speaker:a year. I mean, a month. I didn't see anyone
Speaker:homeless begging for anything. All I saw was a culture
Speaker:of people with a huge grin and smile on their
Speaker:face, immensely grateful to be alive,
Speaker:immensely grateful for their island, for
Speaker:life. Oozing with it. And as a matter of fact,
Speaker:one of the drivers told me, he said,
Speaker:I know the success that you Americans have, it comes at a
Speaker:cost. He said, It may sound crazy, but we're not jealous of
Speaker:your life. We know what comes with all that success.
Speaker:You have to keep up with all the things you buy. And
Speaker:the thing that really rung true to me is he said, you're here on a
Speaker:ten day vacation because you need a break. He said, Americans
Speaker:have so much mental stress from their careers
Speaker:that they literally need to take vacation to get away from it.
Speaker:He said, US, in Bali, we don't need a vacation. We love our
Speaker:lives. We work hard physically. We go to bed, we wake up, and we are
Speaker:so happy, and we're ready to work again. We don't need
Speaker:vacation dates. And I thought,
Speaker:wow, that was serious
Speaker:perspective that he knows what
Speaker:monetary things are out there. He knows financially
Speaker:how successful some folks are, but
Speaker:they aren't jealous for it because they know that it comes at a cost.
Speaker:And they're such a happy, healthy culture,
Speaker:which now is so obvious to me because of their
Speaker:immense gratitude from the moment they wake to the moment they go to
Speaker:bed. Right. Their mindset, they are
Speaker:literally programming their mind on a daily basis. Oozing
Speaker:of gratitude, right? So good.
Speaker:Another thing I learned, the fear of the
Speaker:unknown is not so
Speaker:scary. You guys have heard me talk about this in entrepreneurship,
Speaker:so I'm going to fold in some analogies here, but believe it or
Speaker:not, I was nervous to travel to Bali all by
Speaker:myself. Beyond traveling to Canada and
Speaker:Mexico, I have not traveled internationally by
Speaker:myself ever other than Canada and Mexico. I was in
Speaker:Europe over a decade ago with my husband, but I've never
Speaker:traipsed 36 hours on planes by
Speaker:myself somewhere to a foreign country where the native language
Speaker:isn't English, right? So there was a lot of unknown that had me
Speaker:really uncomfortable, and I almost didn't go
Speaker:for fear of getting stuck somewhere and not knowing the language and not
Speaker:being able to change planes. That may sound silly to some of you
Speaker:guys, right? But what I learned as I traversed the world
Speaker:and made it to Bali was that I had that power
Speaker:within myself to get there the whole time.
Speaker:I just needed to trust the process. I
Speaker:needed to trust myself. I needed to have
Speaker:confidence in myself. And by being willing to take that
Speaker:leap of faith, not knowing exactly what
Speaker:was on the other side, I didn't even know the people I was staying with.
Speaker:We're going to talk about that in a minute. It revealed to me a
Speaker:totally entire new portal
Speaker:of unknown when it comes to world travel.
Speaker:It opened my eyes prior to getting on that plane and traveling
Speaker:across the world by myself. I was
Speaker:unconsciously incompetent. I did not know
Speaker:what I didn't know about traveling the globe, and so I feared
Speaker:it. By traveling the globe, I became
Speaker:consciously incompetent, meaning I
Speaker:realized how little I knew about the rest of the
Speaker:world by traveling to this one geographic
Speaker:location across the world. Now I'm
Speaker:consciously realizing I'm incompetent in learning so many
Speaker:cultures, so many religions, so many
Speaker:cuisines, right? All the things. And so I
Speaker:know there's so much more to learn. And it's just like business.
Speaker:If we stay comfortable with what we know in business,
Speaker:we never tap into new portals for quantum
Speaker:expansion. Right?
Speaker:I'd never done over $300,000 in sales in a
Speaker:launch before. I did almost a million dollars in sales in a
Speaker:launch. I hadn't been there before. Right? It was
Speaker:uncharted territory. I didn't know unless I
Speaker:got uncomfortable for the expansion of what was ahead. It's the same
Speaker:way with my travel. I didn't know until
Speaker:I tapped into those portals to see, right? And it was
Speaker:like, wow, I want to do this again. I've got so many
Speaker:places I want to go now. Right? Another unknown that
Speaker:was really, really interesting for me. I didn't know who I was
Speaker:sharing my house with in Bali. I asked. I am like an
Speaker:enneagram eight who likes to be in control. And even though I was
Speaker:consciously surrendering, I still wanted to control who was
Speaker:there, because in my mind, I energetically wanted to
Speaker:be matched with successful entrepreneurs who were similar
Speaker:or further along than me because I wanted to learn from them. I always say
Speaker:I like to be the dumbest, brokest person in the room, right? But that's
Speaker:business. And I had to remind myself I wasn't on this
Speaker:trip for business. I was on this trip spiritually and for personal
Speaker:growth. And what I realized
Speaker:is that some of the greatest growth happened
Speaker:for me from some of the most unsuspecting people that were in
Speaker:that room. What happened and transpired in
Speaker:this retreat was that the large majority of people there were about
Speaker:a decade younger than me and a number of steps earlier
Speaker:on than me in their business growth. And it was a
Speaker:priceless opportunity for me as a business owner to
Speaker:literally live in a house with people who are
Speaker:really exactly like the clients that I serve. You see, I get to
Speaker:coach my clients across zoom. I get to see them on occasion at live
Speaker:events. But to live in a house with entrepreneurs
Speaker:who are in the early stages and hearing again and being reminded of the
Speaker:early level challenges the mindset
Speaker:blocks, the personal growth that needs to happen.
Speaker:The journey that they have to embark on grounded
Speaker:me and got me more connected with my
Speaker:current clients. And there was actually a participant
Speaker:there who reminded me of my children.
Speaker:Okay. Her breakthroughs and her
Speaker:inner child work that we all did were a mirror to me
Speaker:as a parent with my kids back at home.
Speaker:And one of the first things I did when I got home was actually have
Speaker:direct conversations with my kids. Right. There
Speaker:were other attendees there that were married, there were couples, and that reminded me
Speaker:of my husband and I and the journey that we're on together. And
Speaker:so where I'm going with this is that the unknown of who was in the
Speaker:group was the magic in my own personal growth
Speaker:of realizing I don't always need to be put into a room that's going
Speaker:to grow me in business that many times.
Speaker:It's the most unsuspecting people who can grow you personally.
Speaker:Right. And professionally. Right. Experiences
Speaker:over money. One of the things I noticed again, we talked about the average
Speaker:income of $250 a month I had on
Speaker:my vision board before the end of this year to buy a G Wagon. And
Speaker:I came away from Bali realizing how little these people live
Speaker:with and how happy they are and how a G Wagon was
Speaker:not something I really needed. And as a matter of fact, even though it's a
Speaker:nice car and I love driving it, let's be
Speaker:honest, those types of purchases are actually for
Speaker:ego and perception, like literally buying
Speaker:something for what other people think about your
Speaker:status, right? Yes, I love the G Wagon, but I have an
Speaker:Infinity QX 80, which is a really nice high end car to begin with.
Speaker:And I started running the numbers, and I was like this first
Speaker:class because Mama went first class. This first class
Speaker:trip to Bali was, bar none, the best investment
Speaker:because I was so comfortable. I slept all the way there, I slept
Speaker:all the way back. I was so rejuvenated and full of energy when I got
Speaker:there, I started running the numbers, and I'm like a family of five.
Speaker:We could take three to four first class flights
Speaker:across the globe to, like, South Africa to Australia, to
Speaker:Thailand instead of an
Speaker:ego purchase of a G Wagon. Right? And so
Speaker:my mindset really shifted around
Speaker:things, and I've always had more of a focus on
Speaker:experience. But my ego wanted the G Wagon,
Speaker:right? My ego wanted the G wagon. The last thing I want to land
Speaker:on here was the energy vortex of Bali.
Speaker:For those of you guys who are into the energy and body work, I have
Speaker:been over the last two years in a major growth in what we call
Speaker:spiritual ascension. And I and my
Speaker:energetics coach, my spiritual coach talked about this the day I got there. We did
Speaker:some really deep holotropic breath work that can really get at the
Speaker:root of your nervous system. And I had some
Speaker:huge energetic releases. Huge.
Speaker:I can't even explain to you the jolts that came
Speaker:out of my body, the outer body experiences that I had
Speaker:and even just like how unsettled my legs
Speaker:were the first two days, really working to
Speaker:release these last final shedding of old energy to
Speaker:this final level in this level of ascension that I'm going
Speaker:through. It was mind blowing and incredible.
Speaker:But bali is an energy vortex similar to sedona. For those of you
Speaker:guys who research that type of stuff. The energy healers
Speaker:there were incredible coming from kind of a western
Speaker:medicine PharmD training. I found it
Speaker:fascinating. The body workers who practiced Chinese
Speaker:medicine and could literally rub their hands on my belly,
Speaker:check my pulse and look at my tongue and tell me when my period was
Speaker:going to start, how healthy my heart was, how my lipids
Speaker:were. It was mind
Speaker:blowing. How they practice medicine in a completely
Speaker:different way and get the same results, right? And
Speaker:so we did a lot of work, energy work. Some
Speaker:really incredible spiritual ceremonies, cacao
Speaker:ceremonies. People from across the globe. Therefore,
Speaker:their spiritual journey and connectedness. This
Speaker:universal connectedness. It wasn't one single religion. It wasn't just
Speaker:Budhism or Hinduism or Muslim or Christian. It was
Speaker:really just spirituality and connectedness to all right
Speaker:and purpose. Which leads me to that
Speaker:consciously allowing time where I was able to slow down, listen
Speaker:to my intuition and get the tugs, get the cues. I've had this
Speaker:gut pull all year, but I got profound,
Speaker:profound cues and signs for my next chapter,
Speaker:for impact, for impact for others in
Speaker:business and their life. And I actually completely
Speaker:birthed an entirely new program while I'm there all the way
Speaker:down to the month by month curriculum. And because I
Speaker:created the space and I cleared
Speaker:the energetic path, I
Speaker:accomplished creating the vision, the
Speaker:output and a program literally within two
Speaker:to three days that had I tried to just force myself
Speaker:to figure it out. While being at home in the chaos and
Speaker:the push and the leading of my team and the coaching of my clients. It
Speaker:would have taken me months and likely wouldn't have had the exact
Speaker:clarity and connection and tethering
Speaker:to the anchor of the output of it spiritually and
Speaker:impact. Right. And I know I'm going super woo for some of you
Speaker:guys, but it was life changing.
Speaker:And so where I'll land with that is I birds a new program. It won't
Speaker:be coming out till the new year, I haven't even
Speaker:named it yet, but it's going to hinge around the modern entrepreneur where bodies
Speaker:build businesses with mind, body and spirit for expansion
Speaker:in business. And I am bringing in the absolute experts who've
Speaker:helped me ascend over the past two years in mind, body
Speaker:and spirit that has created massive expansion where I've grown
Speaker:my business 400% since last year while
Speaker:getting the healthiest and the happiest I've ever gotten. And those were the major
Speaker:downloads I had while I was in Bali is it's not just business
Speaker:strategy. This program is not going to be another guru telling you
Speaker:exactly the business strategy. It's going to be about learning to tap into your own
Speaker:intuition and get connected so that you can make the next
Speaker:steps confidently from your internal
Speaker:north compass. Right. And I'll be hinging on a lot of
Speaker:the scientific background I have around nervous
Speaker:system dysregulation and the modalities to get regulated so that
Speaker:energetically. We are on fire, right? Oh, my gosh. I could talk about
Speaker:this forever. But speaking of being on fire, this girl has to wrap up because
Speaker:I've got a coaching haul in two minutes. That is my recap for you from
Speaker:my trip from Bali. If you're curious or inspired about my
Speaker:upcoming program, there will be some information in the show
Speaker:notes about getting on the waitlist. Or you can email
Speaker:us at teamburnouttoallout
Speaker:co. You can email us at team
Speaker:at teamburnouttoallout co.
Speaker:So hope to see you guys on our next episode. See you live
Speaker:somewhere. If you're watching this recently, I hope to see you
Speaker:in Nashville in a couple of weeks. Some of the core
Speaker:collaborators for this future program next year are going to be speaking
Speaker:on stage in Nashville. I cannot wait. I hope you guys have
