305: Lessons and Blessings

Melissa Henault [: 00:00:00

Alright, folks. So in today's episode, it is all about lessons and blessings when it comes to hosting business masterminds, whether you're hosting one yourself or you just wanna see the behind the scenes of how I run mine. Today, I'm gonna give you a recap of my most recent Elevate three sixty mastermind event that I hosted and what I learned, what my clients learned, and the constant evolution as a leader and mentor. So I hope you guys enjoy this. Need some effective tactical advice that actually helps you get results and makes a real difference in your life and business? You've come to the right place. If you're finding yourself here today, it means you're getting ready to gain serious traction in your business, rapidly multiply your income and impact, and you're ready to make it happen while living all out. Guys, I'm Melissa Henault, your trustworthy corporate dropout turned 6 figure business burnout turned happy and healthy CEO of a multimillion dollar online business. And you're listening to the Burnout to All Out podcast.

Melissa Henault [: 00:01:13

On this show, we're serving up innovative growth strategies, simple implementation methods to put them into practice, and action stimulating inspiration tailored specifically for the modern entrepreneur. Let's dive in. Hello. Hello. Burnout to all out family. You guys, I am coming to you with a fresh podcast episode. I've had some request for a recap for the most recent Elevate three sixty mastermind event that I just hosted. And so just coming off the heels of it just a week ago, I thought what a perfect time to jump in, give you guys a recap of really the experience and even my own insights and growth from the event.

Melissa Henault [: 00:02:09

It's really interesting that I curate the events for growth and expansion for my clients. And that's what I wanna recap on is really what happened, what kind of growth and expansion happened, how you could host your own event for the same reasons. But then also, like, the growth that happened for me as a mentor in my community as well. So it always happens. It's so cool. So with that so just to start out, what is the Elevate three sixty mastermind, and who were these people? So, we have a high level mastermind that's a high level business mentorship that also includes experiential based retreats. We've got three of them this year, along with virtual business mentorship. So, these folks have met each other virtually through group coaching over the past two months, but this was their first live event together in person.

Melissa Henault [: 00:03:02

Now the thing to note for my mastermind, if you know me, you know me. It's called elevate three sixty for a reason. It is a 360 degree approach to business, which means that we focus on business strategy, but we also focus on self leadership. How we self manage, how we self regulate, how we unblock. Half of business is managing what's going on between our two ears and regulating ourselves. And that is why it's called elevate three sixty. So it's a very unique approach that we take that I can't imagine being a business mentor without having that tool set and tool belt because it's so expansive. Okay.

Melissa Henault [: 00:03:48

The folks in the room, just to give you kind of a vision of the room and what was going on over this week long retreat. We have just a vast array of entrepreneurs. The thing that makes them the common ground with all of them is that they're growing and building a business leveraging the Internet. That is the common ground. They're growing and building a business, leveraging the Internet, and they recognize the power and need to also focus on the inner work necessary for expansion and growth. One of our clients does international real estate investing. One we've got some high performance coaches. We've got pharmacists doing major contracts with health care systems.

Melissa Henault [: 00:04:29

We've got different types of physicians. One in the functional medicine space working with clients. The others actually consulting with corporate. We have a priestess in the group. I've got a chiropractor in the group. I've got a PR agency in the group. I've got someone who's specialized in dyslexia with children and parents. I could go on and on.

Melissa Henault [: 00:04:49

The common thread is that they're all growing and scaling a business in the online space, and they also recognize the unique focus on also the power of the inner work that needs to be done for expansion along with business strategy. Okay. So that gives you the backdrop to the audience and the people in the room. Again, we're on this journey together for a year, but what's really cool about the event that we just hosted is that there are a couple of goals for the event. And the goals for my live events and masterminds are always these three critical things. Number one is business strategy. People come to me for strategy to expand and grow their business. So lots of business strategy and ideas to take home for clarity and execution, bar none.

Melissa Henault [: 00:05:33

Number two, with equal weight is the inner work that we must shed in order to expand, in order to have the capacity to hold what we are calling in, we must learn modalities to release negative patterns, to continue to heal from the past because it's impacting business. Really be willing to look under the hood of what's keeping us from our highest potential. So that's number two, the inner work. Number three for all live events for me is to foster connection. I would not be where I am today in business without the network. I've been able to build through strategically getting in the right rooms and networking with the right people. So that power of connection is really, really integral, and it's also connection not only with others because entrepreneurship can be lonely, and we need the emotional support. We need expanders.

Melissa Henault [: 00:06:27

We need pacesetters, but we need to reconnect with ourselves. And I think that gets missed a lot in business mentorship is creating space for reconnection with yourself and creating space for restoration. So it may sound like an oxymoron for some people listening to this that they're like a business mastermind retreat that included restoration. Yes. We were at a resort where there were sound bowls, and there was yoga and there was all kinds of massages, all the things, great expansive gym with some freedom in the calendar to enjoy those things and to I believe in the 360 degree approach. And I live a both and world where we can focus on business and relationships and restore and be healthy. Like I went to bed at 08:30 every single night and until the last night didn't have a drop of alcohol and I moved my body and I exercise. So this is really insightful for those of you who run retreats or run live events is, like, you own the agenda.

Melissa Henault [: 00:07:30

You own the calendar. How do you wanna show up? Do you wanna show up and end up depleted at the end of the event? Or do you wanna design and lead the curriculum in a way that allows you to be fully restored, fully present? Because I can guarantee your attendees want that too. So those were the main focuses of the live event. Again, strategy, inner work, and connection with self and others, growing the network. So here's what ensued over those couple of days. So we kicked off with connection, specifically on Monday, and I love this because it kinda set the tone for the rest of the week. Everyone got to stand up and really share their superpower so that the rest of the group could take note for the rest of the week. Who in the room is, like, really gifted at a b c one two three? So you can meet them at the water cooler, at lunch, at dinner, at the gym to have a discussion about collaboration and support.

Melissa Henault [: 00:08:24

But also, they were to share what they're struggling the most with their biggest roadblock in business. And this becomes really important the following day with the workshop that we did. And then we also ended the day and evening, really cool elegant dinner outside with lights. It was just amazing, but really talked about our whisper. Like, that thing that we're afraid to say out loud for fear of what others will think. You know what I'm talking about? Where you're afraid others will think you're crazy for dreaming that big. We had that discussion, and we spoke it out loud, and it set the tone for the next day. Now fast forward to the next day.

Melissa Henault [: 00:09:02

Unlike a traditional probably business meeting that a lot of you over on LinkedIn have attended, I pulled us out of the boardroom because I believe that there's a lot of ego in the boardroom. There's a lot of highly successful entrepreneurs in the boardroom. And unless we can, like, get in our gym clothes and laugh and have fun for a little while, we're not gonna break the ice quickly. I've been to mastermind events where it was, like, an hour cocktail hour where we're, like, forced to connect and then, like, nothing really ensued from that versus masterminds I've been in. Chris Harder, one of my dear mentors, love. I've been in his mastermind for three years in a row. He does a full day integration event where it's like, you're just sweating it out with the group. Like, you're out of the boardroom and you're just human.

Melissa Henault [: 00:09:46

You're not identified as a business, a revenue number, success or anything. So one of the reasons I love Miraval, which is the resort that we went to, I took them to the ropes course, and they brought their whisper with them to the ropes course. We're all harnessed up. We've got our hard hats on. I feel like Dumb and Dumber if any of you guys have watched that movie with the moped and the hat and all the things. But what was really amazing was that except for two people who had health conditions that kept them from getting on the ropes course, every single client opted into this ropes course event. And many of them afraid of heights chose to do it anyway. And I really teed up this activity with the whisper.

Melissa Henault [: 00:10:30

So I was like, the thing about the ropes course and the thing about business is that there's the comfort zone, which we know that's not where we grow, where we stay safe, and where we know the familiar is where we stagnate and ultimately go backwards. And then there's the growth zone, and the growth zone is the unknown. The growth zone is uncomfortable. The growth zone is where we don't know. We don't have a guarantee. It's moving through faith rather than moving through fear or at least being willing to move through the fear, get familiar with the fear. And that was the big take home message I had for our mastermind clients was we're gonna get familiar with fear. And we're never gonna like wash it away from our bodies, but we can get familiar with it and recognize it and honor it as a growth space as an entrepreneur.

Melissa Henault [: 00:11:21

So they navigated the ropes course, out of the boardroom out of their egos in their gym clothes. And when we got to the top of the ropes course, the call to action was to take your whisper and to free fall with facing your fear, literally jumping off the Second Floor of this ropes course and scream your whisper and call it out loud in the midst of overcoming fear. And it was a beautiful activity. There were tears, sheer excitement that they were able to overcome their fear, tears of fear, people buckled before they jumped multiple times. The power of the group. I wanna underscore the power of the group, the power of the herd, because the feedback I got from the community, from the mastermind, a couple of them were like, there's no way in hell I would have just gone over there and done that. Never in a million years, Melissa. But because everyone else was going, the power of the herd moved me forward, and it actually brought me into my uncomfortable and showed me what was possible through the momentum of my peers.

Melissa Henault [: 00:12:33

That is just a metaphor for masterminds to begin with, my friends. There is so much power in the group. There is so much power and momentum with the group to move you into your uncomfortable to take action on things that you otherwise might not have. So love that. So that was a really cool activity we did in the morning. What's really cool though is with the power of the room and identifying everyone's zone of genius, we also identified the top four blocks that people had in their business. This is the power of a room. We were able to survey the room and break them up into subject matter experts who could teach back to the group the top four roadblocks the group had.

Melissa Henault [: 00:13:16

So keep this in mind. You've got a room of 25 people. And out of the 25, there's four agreed upon major roadblocks in business. And in that same room, you find experts broken up into four groups who are the experts in the other people's blocks. This is the power of being in the room. So they each took turns, collaborating and small breakouts to plan and strategize and teach to the rest of the room, how to overcome one each of the four major identified roadblocks in business. This also created and showcased to the group an in-depth view of the experience and the expertise in the mastermind for the rest of the group to leverage for the rest of the year. It was just planting seeds.

Melissa Henault [: 00:14:06

So so beautiful. So the way we ended that business strategy day was, again, unconventional, leveraging some parallels to being a leader in the online space. If you are a leader in the online space and you're running a team, you have to lead a vision virtually. Am I right? We have to lead a vision virtually. You are telling your team about your idea and how you wanna roll it out in a virtual space. So how do you lead that? How do you execute that? So we broke everybody up into a new group of four or small groups And get this, there was a LEGO structure at the front of the room that was enclosed, so you couldn't see it unless you went behind it. And only one person per group could go look at the structure. And then they had to come back to the table with a box of Legos, and actually tell everyone else what they saw and how to build it without touching the Legos.

Melissa Henault [: 00:15:08

Now this was a beautiful practice of being a visionary and trying to lead others to take your vision and make it real. And it fostered incredible connection with the group and brought out people's competitive nature and rounded out the evening with a little bit of fun. So that was a little bit about kind of kicking off the first real full day of connecting, networking, setting the ego aside, bonding, overcoming fears, calling out our whisper. So it's elevate three sixty because we take a 360 degree approach. Day two, full day was very heavy into the shadow work. If you know me, you know that I have been on this journey for probably four years now in the power of shadow work and inner work in general that is necessary for expansion. We have to grab negative energy and frequency at its root in our body, and we have to move it up and out in order to have capacity to hold what we want. I see this so many times as a business mentor.

Melissa Henault [: 00:16:18

I can give you all the strategy. I can tell you exactly how to do it. But if you're energetically blocked and emotionally blocked, you will not be able to execute and get the same results. I will. It is a matter of core principle of energetics. If you are operating at a super low frequency of anger, of guilt, of shame, you will project that low frequency energy out into the world, and it will reflect back at you. I can't hand you the best business strategy on the planet to a person whose operational frequency is at the baseline floor and expect stellar results. It won't happen, my friends, because here's the reality.

Melissa Henault [: 00:17:03

If you're operating from a place of shame and guilt, if you're operating from a place of low frequency energy because of emotional congestion, what happens is it translates into your content. It translates into your videos. It translates into a consult. You can't close a lead for business operating from a super low frequency where you're not confident. You don't feel safe. Your prospective client is not gonna feel safe in your presence. I'm gonna say this one more time. Your perspective client is not gonna feel safe in your presence if you don't feel safe.

Melissa Henault [: 00:17:38

So all of that to say, the entire day on day two was about uprooting and reprogramming when it comes to low frequency energy that's stagnant in our bodies. And so I started with a workshop at the beginning of the day that really talked about the energetics of business and frequency that we're operating on. And I actually walked them through a really cool hypno breath work exercise that I have done and do to this day to actually visualize and manifest my desired states and how to instantly raise the frequency and vibration of my body to attract what I'm calling in. So I actually broke it down. I took them into the science of it because I'm a science geek when it comes to the neuroscience of our thoughts becoming literally the different triggers that change our DNA production of proteins and who we are. So I could do a whole another podcast on that. So I did that first, got them all warmed up, and then handed them over to Preston. If you know Preston Smiles, he is a force to be reckoned with, and he took them deep into some shadow work where we went through an exercise that was really uncomfortable for everyone.

Melissa Henault [: 00:18:58

And that was where everyone took a turn in the group and shared one of their deepest, darkest, shameful guilt that they're carrying in their somatic nervous system today. This is powerful stuff. The reality is all of us are carrying around shame and guilt, and the shame and guilt we carry, we think we're different. We think that no one else carries this burden. No one else is navigating what we're holding. And the reality is holding it within our nervous system is dampening our energetic frequency, and it's congesting us emotionally and energetically. The power of this exercise, two things. Number one was the emotional release that happens when someone publicly shares for the first time in a small safe group what they're most shameful for.

Melissa Henault [: 00:19:58

To stand in their power almost in like a superwoman or power pose, but you people wanna fold. They wanna not make eye contact and just kind of mumble what it is they've they've struggled with. And the exercise was no. Own it. Lift your head up. Put your hands on your hips. Look your peers in their eyes and own this and just feel the effing emotion. Let it move through you.

Melissa Henault [: 00:20:24

Acknowledge it. And once we acknowledge it, it no longer owns us. It was so powerful to see certain people saying their shame, saying their guilt multiple times, and each time they said it, less emotion came through. Less tears came through. A couple of times, Preston had people do primal screams and get really angry and move it out of their bodies. So that was number one is releasing the emotional congestion, so it no longer is holding you in prison. Number two was the moment for everyone in the group that wow, like everybody has their shadow. Everybody has a dark space.

Melissa Henault [: 00:21:11

This is the part of the beauty of being human. And it also makes the group realize I'm not alone. I'm not the only one carrying shame and guilt. As a matter of fact, maybe I'm not so special in a good way. And there was no judgment. It was massive compassion. And this was step one in releasing the emotional congestion of what we hold. Now we're going to be moving through this emotional congestion, moving through the root of a lot of our shadow work throughout the year in the mastermind through modern entrepreneur.

Melissa Henault [: 00:21:51

So more on that. But this was the igniter. This was the gate opener to begin releasing what's not serving us. Because when we can release it, it no longer energetically is stuck in our bodies. And then we feel safe, and we feel secure. And we are operating at a higher energy, and we begin to attract at a higher frequency. And then all the things we desire in life begin to come our way. Sounds easy.

Melissa Henault [: 00:22:23

But the work is called work for a reason. It's actually easier to work on your business, I promise you, than it is to do the shadow work. The second half of that day, we brought in Sam, who is my spiritual mentor and also has done trauma work with me. She's a trauma therapist. She's clinically trained. She's got a master's degree in it. And she also was a sound healer and a shimami and all the things. So the afternoon was about integration.

Melissa Henault [: 00:22:50

It was about, wow. We all felt some really big emotions. How do we begin to integrate this? What do we do with this? And what I love about this is it's not talk therapy. It's not about a series of talk therapy after this. What I love about the power of what we do, what we're gonna be doing to move this through a modern entrepreneur is teaching the entrepreneurs tools to own and move these emotions through and out of their own bodies, not to depend on a therapist to talk to you about anything. I am not a therapist. It is about teaching you the skill set for self leadership, for self management, for self routine release of emotional congestion at a nervous system level so it no longer owns you. And so I'll end up, by the way, there is a space in a place for therapist.

Melissa Henault [: 00:23:45

I'm not saying there isn't, but the somatic work that we do is in the body and a releasing from the body. So Sam really kicked us off with integration that afternoon. It was beautiful. We sat outside, there was sun, and it was just kind of a ask Melissa, ask Sam anything about integration practices, where we go next with what we've uprooted, and really talked about what it looks like headed home and managing that, right, and working through it. So then we ended with a really cool sound session that night with integration. So Sam played some beautiful bowls for integration from the day to kind of process. And then we moved into our power strategy day. So it is a business mastermind.

Melissa Henault [: 00:24:31

So we started with business strategy. We're coming back to business strategy. Not to mention our clients got really cool brand photos, but that was like a whole another thing. So it's really important that we have our top notch photos for, brand online. So the final day was about strategy. And, again, really, really powerful that earlier in the week, we were able to solve problems, the top four problems within the community with top experts in the community, like for the community by the community. On the final day, the first half the day, what we did was we collected the top questions submitted by the mastermind. And we, myself as the CEO and department head leads for marketing and sales, sat up at the front of the room and really went through some of the top questions in our categories.

Melissa Henault [: 00:25:23

We talked about KPIs. We talked about how do we remove ourselves from the business. We talked about how do we scale. We talked about sales strategies and marketing strategies and all the strategy strategy strategy. So that was a really cool dialogue back and forth with the mastermind. And then in the afternoon, we brought in Mel Abraham, who is just a highly sought after money expert. And what I love about him kinda closing up is really speaking to legacy, really speaking to why are you in business for yourself? What is your long game plan, and how is the income you're making today? What is your financial strategy to ensure that money works harder for you than you worked for it? So lots of note taking where he really walked through personal finance and business finance and a larger, bigger picture portfolio for multiple generations to come. And so then in due fashion, we closed out the event with a hypno breath work session that I did with the community to help them really identify their first initial actions in business as they walked away from that event, driving intuitive action through subconscious based off of cues of really walking them through everything they experienced at the event.

Melissa Henault [: 00:26:48

I will say the one other thing we did that's really, really powerful. I suggest any of you guys who host events that you do this is I set aside an hour at the end of every event for about fifteen or twenty minutes for people to really flip through all of their notes. Because how many of you have gone to events where you leave with your head spinning with, like, 12,000 ideas? So I really encourage them to list everything they identified in their notes as, like, things they could do. And then I actually challenged them to pick the top three things that would be most needle moving in their business, that if chosen one out of those three would move the needle the most. And then we actually break them up into small groups where they actually share what they chose, why they chose it, and they create accountability groups, how they're going to hold each other accountable to a thirty, sixty, ninety day plan on those top three components that they identified. So that way, you're not leaving the mastermind, you're not leaving your attendees with their head spinning when they leave, You're leaving them with a clear plan of the three major things they can take action on. Now I personally, over the years, have learned to take it slow the day after a live event. When I'm attending a live event, I don't heal out at 4AM to catch the first flight home.

Melissa Henault [: 00:28:07

I tend to take it slower and leave later, and that's very purposeful so that I can review all of my notes and I can come up with a game plan. But I know that most people don't operate that way, and they don't think that far in advance. So I make the space for my clients. So if you're one that host events, something you can consider. And it also helped dovetail into the breath work session I did for them because they had reviewed all of their notes before they laid down and did breath before I cued them for intuitive action. So that's a little bit about the flow of the event. We also ended that night with the most beautiful table. Like, it felt like Thanksgiving dinner with all 25 people at the table with the candles lit family style.

Melissa Henault [: 00:28:49

And I think everyone walked away with strategy and everyone walked away with authentic connections for the year. And I also think that everyone walked away being cracked wide open with the energetic work and the shadow work ahead. Many have done the work before, and it was a much easier exercise for them. Some it was the first time they had done this work. And so it was really heavy for them. They wanted to walk away being massively inspired and, like, ready to take action, not realizing that there's deeper work that needs to be done before they get to that enlightened state and those really desired results that they want. So that was a mixed bag at dinner. You had people who were like clear, ready to take action, and the shadow work was really light for them because they've been through iterations of it over the past couple years.

Melissa Henault [: 00:29:44

And for some, it rocked them to their core of like, wow, I have a lot to work on or what just happened. And we have to honor the process for all of our clients, like, where they are and where they're headed. What I can say from years of experience of hosting this mastermind is the clients whose core are rocked at the beginning of the year who timidly signed up for this work for me not quite sure where they're headed with strategy and self leadership in the inner work. The ones that were most resistant and rock to their core in the beginning are the ones that have the largest growth if they can stick with it through the year. They're so expansive. Like, I think of the three clients last year who gave the most resistance, who were totally green to the work, ultimately, by the tail end of the year had grown between 3500% in their businesses. And they will all single handedly tell you it had everything to do with getting at the root of the core of self leadership and what was going on between their two ears energetically, that actually was the springboard for growth in their business. Now, that inner work was paired with phenomenal strategy and execution, you can't have one without the other and have results, we can sit in a corner and do inner work for the next year, but have no business strategy and get nowhere.

Melissa Henault [: 00:31:01

So that is what I love that's so unique about what we do, but it's not for the faint of heart. It's not for the faint of heart. So couple of observations from this last mastermind event just kind of to recap, kinda to close this out because it's really kinda cool. What I witnessed with the clients, just I call it the power of the water cooler. Like, we can connect through Zoom. We can connect on coffee chats, but there is something different about the water cooler. The breaks between the workshops and being in an intimate room, and then being able to connect with someone on the side about something that was said that spurs a thought in a light bulb moment that someone puts on a cocktail napkin that turns into a new business plan that can radically changes the results in someone's business. So I call that the power of the water cooler connection by strategically being in the right place at the right time.

Melissa Henault [: 00:31:55

And I say this all the time. I buy my friends, and I have no shame in saying that. I invest in getting in the right rooms and in front of the right people where there's a symbiotic relationship that we can each grow each other. Otherwise, I would be sitting in Davidson, North Carolina, rotting with no one around me to expand me if I didn't strategically get out and invest in getting in the rooms. And that's what these clients have done. They have strategically chosen to sit in a room with other high performers and do the work and do the hard work, all of it all of it together, which is so cool. And again, when I think about the power of investing in masterminds myself, I think about how Preston smiles and Sam Harper and Mel Abraham, were all there because I invested in masterminds in the past, planted seeds, met these people, worked with these people, collaborated with these people, and now I have great relationships with these people, And they bring value to my mastermind. And so what I see happening in the mastermind that I'm running is the same thing is starting to happen.

Melissa Henault [: 00:33:03

There's all kinds of connections that are happening within the group that are seeds being planted, that will be grown over the years and leveraged over the years if they can create a law of reciprocity and kind of giving and taking in those relationships. That was really, really neat. The overall output of the mastermind for the clients, and then I'm gonna talk about output for me because it was really interesting self growth for me. The output for the mastermind, clearly, there were breakthroughs in knowledge in the business workshops that we did that was facilitated by me, by my team, by the peers, and by guest speakers. So there's massive business breakthroughs. Couple people landing on blowing up their business and building things from the ground up, others making tweaks, others layering on new offers this year. It just depends on the season they're in. And then the breakthroughs somatically with the shadow work that our clients are doing to create capacity to actually hold what they're calling in.

Melissa Henault [: 00:34:05

I truly know, and have embodied that you can't have one without the other you cannot have exponential growth in your business without looking under the hood and uprooting that emotional congestion that slowing us down. Definitely an output that I commend my mastermind clients for leaning in doing the work rolling up their sleeves on this. And then the other output was emotional connection. So we're releasing emotional congestion while we're also creating emotional connection. I'm laughing because I literally was just in a group text with my girlfriends from, like, masterminds that I've been in. I've just collected these amazing women throughout the years, and I've put together a group chat between us. And I now have a girlfriend's chat is really interesting. Let me say this, I'm gonna sound like I'm going off on a tangent.

Melissa Henault [: 00:34:56

But one of the things that we do with our mastermind clients is they do an intake form before they come in. And we're really asking them a lot of questions around what I call the all out philosophy in different areas of life and business. And one of them is relationships. And it's really interesting how many entrepreneurs actually are very lonely. They don't feel connected. And they're not like anyone around them. And so what I love about getting in the room like this is creating authentic connections with humans who get you Because when you're running a business from home, typically, the other partner has no idea what it's like to be an entrepreneur. If there's kids in the house, they certainly don't know.

Melissa Henault [: 00:35:39

Most of us live in neighborhoods and communities where no one gets what we do. And I have created some of the most amazing friendships that have had to have been strategic through getting in rooms where there's other entrepreneurs, being proactive with those relationships. And now owning a group text where some days we're celebrating million dollar days. And some days we're asking each other about our favorite lotion that's non toxic. But emotional connection is so important for the social emotional support and success of an entrepreneur. Like, we can't look past these soft skills that contribute to the overall longevity, life and happiness and health and wealth of an entrepreneur. Insights also a little bit about the emotional blockage that they worked through that I wanna underscore a little bit more here. And I talked about this at the beginning of the podcast, but shame and guilt are one of the lowest frequencies on the frequency chart.

Melissa Henault [: 00:36:42

And I'm gonna do a whole another podcast on this because it's so profound, but it's one of the lowest frequencies. Whereas joy and happiness and get this, authenticity are at the highest. The frequencies are the highest vibrating frequencies, where the attraction of wealth, health, happiness is is all at the top of the Richter scale and frequency of authenticity. How do we get to an authentic state is through releasing the emotional blockage that we carry. So again, I just think it's really, really powerful that a was validating to our clients that while everyone else carries emotional blockage. It's not just me. And, b, what a cathartic release to let this emotional garbage out and realize I don't need to hold it anymore. I don't need to keep it a secret.

Melissa Henault [: 00:37:36

It's not a dirty secret. Everybody has dark shadows, and it's okay. And when we can start to uproot that and create a higher frequency of authenticity, we begin to attract all that we desire. And the reason I bring this back up is because many of us, for some of you listening to this, where we feel like we don't know where we are going next, we're not comfortable. And this kind of dovetails into kind of what I'm gonna talk about next. When we don't know where we're gonna go next, it can feel really, really uncomfortable. And I had a couple of clients, it bothered them that the agenda wasn't detailed because they didn't know where they were going next. And they didn't know where they were going with the inner work with Preston and Sam and with I but here's the thing that's really interesting.

Melissa Henault [: 00:38:23

When we feel like we don't know where we are going next, this is actually normal for growth. So I want you to think about this. This is actually supposed to occur in order to grow humor me this. If you knew how to grow, you'd already done it. If you knew where you needed to go next, why wouldn't you already be there and be successful. So where accelerated growth happens is exactly in the unknown, because it's the unknown. The growth happens in the unknown space where we've never been before. And so really, I'm teaching my clients to embrace this.

Melissa Henault [: 00:39:05

It's just like that jumping in and escape, you know, jumping and facing their fear with the ropes course the unknown, the unknown is where all the growth happens. All of it. This is why we hire Sherpas and experts to take us into uncharted territory where they have been, where they can say, follow me. I've been here before. I know it feels scary to you. But trust the process and embrace the unknown because you invested in me taking you there. And so I bring that up because this was the first mastermind where I had some of my own personal growth as a mentor. Because although the large majority of my e three sixty clients, my mastermind clients loved the inner work experience, I got pushback from two or three clients who were very uncomfortable with the inner work workshops that we did, which was on purpose to make them uncomfortable.

Melissa Henault [: 00:40:07

But when you're new to this and you've never done it before, it can feel really uncomfortable in an unknown space. But once those of you who know, you know, once you started to do the work, it's like, okay, I'm about to get uncomfortable again. It's like peeling an onion, and there's just layer upon layer upon layer, and you're familiar with the uncomfortable, so you're okay with it. But when you're new to it and you never done it before, it can be really scary. And so what I wanted to say is I curated this mastermind event I always do for my clients, But there's always a lesson for me on the other side too. And this year was a really big lesson and growth phase for me. And I'm telling you guys literally in real time as I'm processing because you guys know, I just keep it real with you. When I got the resistance from the two or three clients who were like, I didn't know what I was getting into.

Melissa Henault [: 00:41:02

You didn't prepare me. I wasn't given an agenda. This was really uncomfortable. I had three options, and this is really, really powerful. Okay, guys? For those of you guys who are coaches, your mentors, okay, I want you to hear me loud and clear, and I'm, again, I'm processing this as I go. We really have three options when our clients give us resistance. We have three options. Knowing that I know that what I did was very purposeful and was supposed to drive discomfort, by the way, purposeful for growth.

Melissa Henault [: 00:41:37

On the other side, I had three options. Number one was, I could have folded and apologized 100% and said, I'm so sorry, you had such a uncomfortable experience, and rub their back and keep them stuck. That's option number one that a lot of coaches and mentors will do when you get backlash from a client or pushback from someone. You don't want them to be unhappy. So you fold and offer them the moon. That's option number one. Option number two, why honestly is the previous version of me an unhealed Enneagram eight. And if you know Enneagram eights, we are bulldozers, and you were either team Melissa Henault or you're dead.

Melissa Henault [: 00:42:20

And so the old version of me and what some of you may do is drop the clients like a bad habit. Oh, you don't like what I'm doing? I'm out. You're out. See you later. Push them out the door. That could have been option number two. So you've got number one, fold and apologize. Rub their backs.

Melissa Henault [: 00:42:38

They stay stuck. Number two, drop them like a bad habit. Kick them out. Or number three, which is, by the way, the most uncomfortable thing for you as a mentor, you as a coach, and for the client that you're coaching, is to actually, I'm like getting goosebumps saying this, learn to have the capacity to hold the resistance from others, Learn to have the capacity to hold the resistance from these clients who are really uncomfortable and have compassion for them, but also leadership. I'm gonna say that again. Have the capacity to hold their resistance, hold it, and have compassion and leadership, instead of dropping them or rubbing their back and keeping them stuck. But have compassion and give them a love shove. I'm gonna call it a love shove.

Melissa Henault [: 00:43:32

Because like a parent, many times, we know what's good for the child, but the child goes kicking and screaming. There is no shortcut, but through. There is no bypass, And I know this, and they wanna bypass. They want the easy button. They want the result, but they just don't wanna do the hard work in the middle. So I, as a leader, am learning to have the capacity to ear their discomfort and not rub their back. But listen and give them a love shove. Congratulations.

Melissa Henault [: 00:44:10

I know this is hard, but this is a breakthrough for you trust the process. Explain where we're headed, why we're headed there, and reinforce why you invested in this in the first place. Because if we knew where we were headed and we knew what we needed to do, we'd already have done it. Where growth happens is in the space that you don't know or understand. It's in the unknown, and the only way to go through to the other side is through mentorship with someone who has been in that unknown, who can say, I've got you. Let me pull you through. I know you're resisting. I know this is uncomfortable.

Melissa Henault [: 00:44:49

But I know from working with dozens upon dozens upon dozens of other mastermind clients year over year over year, that this is exactly the work you need to do. And I'm gonna give you the love shove to get you to the other side. I am not gonna rub your back and I'm not gonna keep you stuck. Older versions and many versions of coaches will appease the client and actually lose the result for the client. You have to be confident in your craft and compassionate and have the capacity for all of it. And I would argue that that is much harder and more evolved than saying you're out or I'm sorry is the compassionate capacity for the in between. And I liken it till the parent, like, my kids don't have iPhones, and they'll be only ones in their class. But I know what's good for them psychologically, developmentally, socially, and emotionally.

Melissa Henault [: 00:45:43

And I am okay with them being upset with me now for the growth of their brains and the results of the humans they will be because of the boundaries I create. Would it be easier for me to fold and tell my kids, sure, have a phone. I'm tired of listening, you complain for the short term, but it would backfire on the back end. And so I'm here to tell you that some of the best mentors I have had, and what I'm learning to practice myself is the capacity to hold the resistance and give the love shove anyway. But let's not rub the backs of our clients and keep them stuck for fear that they won't like us. Because I am here not for the handshake on the front, but a year from now, the bear hug on the back. That was a lot. I told you guys I learned enough, and it is a learning journey.

Melissa Henault [: 00:46:36

I'm telling you in real time. This is a learning journey that I am growing as a business mentor. I am growing as a human being, and I am learning in this world as well. And so let's see. How do I wrap this up? So I learned in this event. My clients learned and evolved at this event. There was massive networking that happened. There was shadow work and the prework for really the unraveling at the root of the shadows that we're going to pull out of our bodies and then reprogram and create massive capacity to hold what we call in this year with this group.

Melissa Henault [: 00:47:12

And it is always such an honor. It is an honor to have opportunity to lead such an incredibly brilliant, smart, compassionate group that's vastly different in so many ways these men and women, but all aligned in knowing and committing that they're doing the hard work alongside the business strategy because they recognize that it's truly the accelerant and the rocket fuel for the strategy that we're giving them. And they inspire me every single day. Okay, I think that was it. Now, here's the thing. Depending on when you listen to this episode, if you're like, dang, Melissa has me wanting to get into the room of an event. Depending on when you listen to this, you may have an opportunity to get in a room with us. We're running an event bundle right now where you can come to my hometown in May for a two day intensive with myself and my energetics and spiritual mentor, Sam Harper, along with a dear friend of mine who's an Enneagram expert.

Melissa Henault [: 00:48:24

And it's gonna be two days of self leadership, unblock, reprogram, create abundance, and be an attraction magnet for what you desire within those two days. And that event bundle is also a ticket to our burnout to all out live event in Miami in October, which is really a focus on business strategy, networking, and the inner work. It is in a phenomenal three day. I think it's a three day event with the event bundle where you get a silver ticket. So you're there for the VIP day. And so that's out there right now. If you're feeling like, man, I need to get in the room. I need to connect.

Melissa Henault [: 00:48:59

I need to evolve. And if you're listening to this a little bit later and it's after May, we will still have our Miami tickets for sale until they're sold out. We sell out every year, but we'd love to see you there. We'd love to connect with you. And with that, as always, stay connected here with the burnout to all out community. And let me know. Send me a message what you've learned, insights you had, anything that resonated. And with that, it's a wrap.

Melissa Henault [: 00:49:30

Thanks, guys, so so much for listening in on today's podcast episode. And I can't wait for you to see my upcoming guest in the next episode. You are going to love this keynote speaker. Hey, here's the deal. If you like this, please subscribe and leave a review. And you want the latest online business growth strategies and exclusive LinkedIn pro tips sent straight to your phone? Text the word update to (704) 318-2285. That is text the word update to (704) 318-2285. Can't wait to see you guys.

Melissa Henault [: 00:50:11

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